I am a Jedi Rollergirl.
However, sometimes my metaclorin count is drastically reduced by this thing called Starbucks, and it seriously affects my ability to use the force in these matters.
Did you know I once used the force to open a Jar of Dill Pickles?
Ok seriously.. all BS aside. I am not actually a Star Wars geek, although on occasion, because I am so slow, I feel like a giant AT-AT on the Ice Planet Hoth..
I am actually a Lord of the Rings freak.. but LOTR didn't really fit my analogy here..
What i'm talking about is gut instinct. Intuition. That first knee jerk reaction when you meet someone. If you went with this, the majority of the time, you most likely would save yourself alot of time and heartache and drama.
I have spoken with some of my teammates about this, and they have said the same thing "Had I went with my gut instinct in such and such business/family situation, I would have not had to do this crap job, or put up with this jerkwad" In my particular case, my man, has the instincts of a bargain hunting bridezilla at the Macy's sample sale. Every single time I have not listened to him about a situation, or a person, I have regretted it. He was right about certain people/situations on my first team. He was right about the rink owner and her groupie at the first rink GCRG was at when it was newly formed, but in that case, I heeded his gut feelings, and protected our interests, and we got out of there with our name, colors and everything that belongs to us. When I don't listen to him..I always, ALWAYS regret it.
Rarely do people escape my own gut instinct..or manage to not raise my alarms. I say rarely. But it does happen. I try to convince myself that the reason I am having these feelings is because of things that have been done to, or around me, that have lead me to be a jaded person..but that nagging feeling always wins out.
Events of late have been no exception. Just like I was not a good fit with my first team, invariably you get girls who are not a good fit for your team. It's nothing personal, it just happens. Be it they have issues with the team, or how it's run..or we have issues with their behavior.Just don't drag it out for the sake of being a nice person. Do what you need to do from the get go. Take action.
In order to have a cohesive team..you have to have unity. You have to work together. No one person is better than the other. No one is entitled to special privileges to the point they can repeatedly break rules. If you think that you are such a fantastic skater that you can break rules without consequences, then you have no respect for your teammates. Petty Jealousy has no place in derby. If you are jealous because of someone else's skills, then fine tune your own skills, instead of downing them for theirs. If you can't take constructive criticism, then you have no place in derby either..because derby is a constant learning process. Trying to take over from the inside is not going to ingratiate you to people either. They see it for exactly what it is.
The point to all of this and how does it relates to my metaclorin count? Had I listened to my gut instinct, my intuition when first meeting certain people, we would have been able to save our team alot of drama and heartache these past 2 weeks. Straight across the board..I had a gut instinct about all of the girls we terminated, save for one. She managed to escape my instincts.
After all their raging, and commentary and hateful remarks and mass emails to the team and endless phone calls to people trying to sway opinions..I now see how exasperating I probably was to my old team captain. To an extent. I was never that bad though.
Moral of the story?
Always, ALWAYS trust your gut.. it tends to save you a lot of trouble further on down the line. And when you trust your gut...act upon it..
I will leave you with a few quotes I have found useful this past 2 weeks..
To paraphrase the great Oscar Wilde "The only thing that ever consoles someone for the stupid things they do is the praise they always give themselves for doing them."
"You must acquire the trick of ignoring those who do not like you. In my experience, those who do not like you fall into two categories: The stupid and the envious. The stupid will like you in five years time. The envious, never."-John Wilmot,The 2nd Earl of Rochester
"If ya'll are so happy where you've gone, shut up and be happy about it, and if ya'll were so miserable where ya came from, then put it out of your damn minds and get on with your lives like we've gotten on with ours." - Coach Diesel Burner-GCRG
"If people would spend half the energy they use being a jackass into the task at hand, they'd be flat unstoppable" - My Mom..
May the force be with you..
