respect your non-derby friends or you will lose them.
ease them in. introduce them to one derby girl at a time; make sure you sometimes bring up other topics
that they might like to talk about.
teach them rules of play one at a time by using examples from real life. for instance, you are out dancing..."this is so just like in derby! bumping arses is pretty fun...but i guess punching you in the face right now probably wouldn't be that cool, hey?" it's amazing how you can draw comparisons between almost anything and derby.
only go in for the hug after a bout if they move in first - they're used to seeing you really sweaty, they might not realise just how moist you are and being that it's a saturday night, they'll probably be wanting to go out and pick up afterwards. good friends don't drench friends in their heady scent and ruin their chances with the opposite/same sex.
don't invite your non-derby friends over for "dinner" and serve up protein bars and gatorade and kick them out after 6 minutes because that's how long you usually get for that particular activity.
the non-derby population doesn't necessarily regard punching each other in the boobs as a great way to end a night, test the waters first with a cheeky side-boob pinch and gauge their reaction before going in for the king hit.
lovers sometimes like to be regarded as more than just a bit of a thigh workout in between training sessions. included things like "i care about your feelings..." before "but get back down on the bed!" and "i really like the way your eyes reflect the loveliness of your soul..." before "...maybe if you strengthened your core a little, we could do it from this angle".
respect is a two way street and if you want your regular, softcore friends to respect your new lifestyle choice, it's the little things that count and the time you spend sharing quality time together which doesn't include you having them do hardness tests on your thighs, but showing them that you care about their interests as well, by having extensive conversations about handbags and shoes.
ROUGE IT OR LOSE IT!!!
